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Behavior change is hard. Studies show that up to 45% of our behavior comes from habits. So, what if we could learn how to build habits and design the new behaviors we want? In this podcast episode, our guest is BJ Fogg, Ph.D., the founder of Stanford’s Behavior Design Lab, and the world’s leading expert in habit formation. His new book Tiny Habits: Small Changes That Change Everything is based on over two decades of groundbreaking research and lays out a simple – yet powerful – behavior change model and a broader master system. His Tiny Habits® Method helps you create a three-step recipe designed to break big aspirations into specific micro behaviors; anchor them to a reliable prompt, and wire them in through a celebration with positive emotion.

People use Tiny Habits for a wide range of situations and challenges. It’s up to you on how you choose to use it and design the recipes that are right for you. However, the book includes over 300 sample Tiny Habit Recipes across 15 common life situations and challenges to spur your thinking.

These include recipes to build habits for:

  • active older adults
  • caregivers
  • better sleep
  • reducing stress
  • cultivating brain health
  • strengthening close relationships
  • stopping habits that are getting in your way

 

We talk with BJ Fogg about his new habit book and:

  • What Behavior Design is all about – and how he become interested in it
  • How the Fogg Behavior Model works
  • Why leaning on motivation and willpower aren’t reliable paths to behavior change
  • How to build habits – and what emotion has to do with it
  • Why the Tiny Habits Method is a valuable skillset
  • Why some habits are Golden Behaviors and how to identify them and create them
  • Why the Tiny Habits Method is transformational
  • Why you’ll want to try The Super Fridge habit (among others in the Tiny Habits book)
  • How he is personally using Tiny Habits today in his life
  • His advice for people who want to create new behaviors this year

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Bio

BJ Fogg, Ph.D., is the founder and director of the Behavior Design Lab at Stanford. In addition to his research, he teaches Boot Camps in Behavior Design for industry innovators and also leads the Tiny Habits Academy helping people around the world. One of Fortune’s “10 New Gurus You Should Know.”

Each year Dr. Fogg creates a new course to teach at Stanford, with topics ranging from mobile persuasion to health habits. His students have gone on to create successful products, including Instagram, that millions of people use every day. Today, Dr. Fogg is primarily interested in how human behavior works and how to help people acquire habits that lead to health and happiness. He has personally coached over 42,000 people in his behavior change method called “Tiny Habits.”

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Wise Quotes 

On Behavior Design

“It came together for me in 2007 and this model – it’s really easy to understand, and it applies to all types of behaviors and all habits. Basically, it’s three elements. There’s motivation to do the behavior, the ability to the behavior, and a prompt. And so, with any behavior, we’ll have Motivation, Ability, and a Prompt. And this is what we discovered in research at Stanford and in industry. And if you make a small tweak to any one of those elements, you can change behavior. So, for example, if you want to stop a habit, if you can remove the motivation, boom, it will stop. If you can’t do that, can you remove the ability to make it harder to do? You can stop it – or can you remove the prompt? You can also use the model for one-time behaviors for creating habits and so on. So, it’s really pretty straightforward, I think it’s an elegant model that you can apply in a whole bunch of ways.”

 

On Emotions & Creating Habits

“The common thing that you hear is repetition – and repetition is what creates habits. But that’s not actually accurate. When you look at the studies that people cite – when they’re saying that the studies show that repetition causes habits – it shows that it correlates with habits. So, they’re mixing up correlation and causation. And so, what causes the habit to form? It’s the emotion you feel when you do that behavior or immediately after, and the specific emotion and tiny habits that I advocate and teach people to feel as the feeling of success…That emotion rewires your brain, so your brain actually changes. It’s the sheathing along the neurons that the emotions will trigger a sequence of things that actually changes your brain and wires that habit in. So really emotions are the key to habit formation… if you understand that emotions create habits, that these positive emotions create habits, then it’s like a whole different experience. And that’s what really works as you get good at feeling good about your behavior – and about yourself…It’s an uplifting thing and that ripples out to other parts of your life.”

 

On Why Change with Tiny Habits Can Be … Fun?

“When people first saw the research I was doing on this and sharing Tiny Habits, I was probably a few thousand people in, coaching people individually through email… And people would write back and say, ‘Wow, this is actually fun. I never knew this was fun. Am I crazy? This is fun.“ And I’m like, ‘No, there is something fun about it.’ Not like riding a roller coaster or watching a funny movie. Well, I’ll make a guess. And you make a guess. I think the fun comes from a sense of discovery and playfulness that the tiny habits promote. And I think that can feel like fun.”

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You’ll Want to Read This Book

Get Tiny Habits by BJ Fogg on Amazon.

It’s the best habits book available. It’s not a rehash of old research. It is groundbreaking with simple, practical, and effective tools backed by hands-on research. Build habits the right way.

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For More Information on BJ Fogg. Ph.D.

bjfogg.com

tinyhabits.com

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Podcast Episodes You May Like

The Joy of Movement – Kelly McGonigal

Design Your Life and Get Unstuck – Dave Evans

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About The Retirement Wisdom Podcast

Our retirement planning podcast features conversations with authors, thought leaders, and people creating meaningful second careers and interesting lives in retirement. Our mission is to share the wisdom that helps people retire smarter. We believe that balancing financial planning with attention to how people will invest their time and energy –  especially when retiring early – is a wise move.

Thanks to our guests, our podcast was recently included on a list of 24 Inspiring Podcasts to Help You Thrive in 2020 by Thrive Global.

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Side Note

Here’s the NBA Legend (10 championship rings…) who was kind enough to take the time to show a 16-year-old high school player how he mastered the bank shot by starting small.

 

 

 

 

Aging Well Takes Skill

Wise retirement planning transcends your 401k. The transition to retirement is one of the most significant experiences you’ll encounter in your lifetime. And it’s increasingly being recognized as a new and distinct phase of life. One that’s rich with possibilities for personal development, spiritual growth, learning, and wisdom. While people retire at different ages, what we all have in common is that we are all growing older. And it turns out that aging well takes a new skillset.

In this episode of our retirement podcast, our guest is Rabbi Laura Geller, Rabbi Emerita of Temple Emanuel in Beverly Hills, California, a founder of ChaiVillageLA and co-author of the new book, Getting Good at Getting Older. She was the third woman in the Reform Movement to become a rabbi and among the first to be selected to lead a major metropolitan synagogue.

We talk with Rabbi Geller about:

  • Why she and her late husband decided to write the new book Getting Good at Getting Older
  • If wisdom comes with age
  • How we can cultivate wisdom (and as she recommends – a heart of wisdom) in the second half of life
  • Why creating the right mindset and attitude about retirement is so important
  • Spirituality and inner life in the second half of life
  • The benefits of embracing lifelong learning and aging well
  • What people who thrive in retirement do differently from those who struggle with the transition to retirement
  • Where to begin if you want to get good at getting older

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Bio

Rabbi Laura Geller, Emerita Rabbi of Temple Emanuel of Beverly Hills, was the first woman to be selected through a national search to lead a major metropolitan synagogue as Senior Rabbi. She was twice named one of Newsweek’s 50 Most Influential Rabbis in America and was featured in the PBS documentary “Jewish Americans.” Author of numerous articles in books and journals, she was on the editorial board of The Torah: A Women’s Commentary. She is a Fellow of the Corporation of Brown University from where she graduated in 1971. Ordained by Hebrew Union College in 1976, she is the third woman in the Reform Movement to become a rabbi. She is a Rabbinic Fellow of the Hartman Institute in Jerusalem, a mentor in the Clergy Leadership Initiative, a facilitator in the Formation Project of On Being, and a member of the Board of The Jewish Women’s Archive. She is a founder of the first synagogue-based village, ChaiVillageLA, which is part of the national Village Movement. She is co-author with her late husband Richard Siegel, co-author of The Jewish Catalog(1973), of Getting Good at Getting Older.

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Wise Quotes 

On Wisdom

“It’s very important to acknowledge that it’s hard to have a lot of wisdom when you’re young. But as you say, getting older doesn’t mean that you’re necessarily wise. So, the activity of acquiring wisdom is a practice many of us prepare when we’re younger for our retirement. We need also to prepare for our spiritual work of this second stage of our life. And part of it, I think is really paying attention to what it means to be wise. What does it mean to pay attention to the opportunities that exist that this stage of our life and what are the practices that can help us do that? So, in our book, we speak about meditation, we talk about journaling, we talk about pilgrimage as opposed to travel. It’s one thing to take a trip. It’s another thing to experience that trip as a pilgrimage, a journey that will help us discover not only our roots but also what’s really important to us. It takes a focus on lifelong learning. We continue to learn and gain wisdom through the notion that when you stop learning, you start dying.”

 

On Intergenerational Relationships

“One of the things that we learned in working on our book is one of the secrets of getting good at getting older is cultivating friends across generation, younger friends, and actually older friends as well.”

 

On Meaning & Purpose in the Second Half of Life

“I think the bottom line is that when we are in midlife, we’re often sort of too busy to pay attention to the existential questions of meaning and purpose. You know, you have kids, you have older parents, you have work. You don’t really have time necessarily to really reflect on the meaning and purpose of life. But now at this stage, with the acknowledgment that there’s less time ahead than there was behind, I think people are in a position often to pay more attention to those kinds of questions. And those kinds of questions ultimately are spiritual questions. Not everybody defines spirituality in the same way. Not everybody speaks of divinity in their lives, but I think many people at this stage of their life have the spaciousness to be able to think about questions that they perhaps didn’t have the opportunity to think about before.”

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Rabbi Geller’s Book:

Buy Getting Good at Getting Older on Amazon

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Organizations Mentioned in this Podcast

Encore.org

Next Avenue


Our Brief Review of Getting Good at Getting Older as one of the best books on retirement and healthy aging.  It’s a comprehensive guide on how to age well and retire smarter.

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Related Podcast Episodes You May Like

(from Contributors to Getting Good at Getting Older)

Richard Eisenberg

Helen Dennis

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We help people who are retiring, but not done yet, discover what’s next.

A long retirement is a terrible thing to waste. And a meaningful retirement doesn’t just happen by accident.

Retire smarter. Schedule a call today to discuss how we can help you make yours great.

How’s Your Mind-Body Connection?

In this episode of our retirement podcast, our guest is Dr. Kelli Harding, author of The Rabbit Effect: Live Longer, Happier, and Healthier With the Groundbreaking Science of Kindness. Is there anything more important than your health and well-being? Most books for retirement focus on financing retirement and health care, which are important topics. If you want to retire smarter, you have to go beyond that. The Rabbit Effect is not a retirement book per se, but it offers recommendations, based on research, on how you can enhance your overall wellness by mindful of hidden factors, like compassion and kindness.

We discuss with Kelli Harding:

  • How scientific research on compassion and kindness changed how she viewed medicine
  • Why the Mind-Body connection and hidden factors affect health and well-being
  • The role of relationships and social ties to health
  • The long-term consequences of seemingly small decisions like compassion and choices we make – do acts of kindness matter?
  • The importance of cultivating a sense of purpose
  • The ripple effect of compassion and kindness
  • Her recommendations on how to start to make mindful daily choices that matter to your well-being

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Bio

Kelli Harding, MD, MPH, is an assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at Columbia University Irving Medical Center. She is a diplomate of the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology, as well as boarded in the specialty of psychosomatic (mind-body) medicine. Harding has spent much of her career in the emergency room at New York-Presbyterian Hospital. She has also served nationally on the Association of American Medical Colleges Board of Directors, which leads the academic medicine community to improve the health of all.

Harding is also the author of  “The Rabbit Effect: Live Longer, Happier, and Healthier with the Groundbreaking Science of Kindness”. She has appeared as an expert source for media outlets including Today, Good Morning America, NPR, The New York Times, Medscape, Oprah.com, Parents, and US News & World Report.

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Wise Quotes

On Hidden Factors that Influence Health

“Here’s the really shocking statistic – we know that lifestyle factors are important and we know that medical care and access to quality medical care is absolutely critical for every human being. But it probably only accounts for about 10 to 20% of our overall health status. And the rest of it has to do with our social world and all these hidden factors in our homes, relationships, communities, workplaces, schools that we need to be talking and addressing that we often don’t think about, like health.”

“So for listeners, if there is one thing that you can invest in for your health, it’s building positive relationships – and this pans out in multiple studies. In fact, the longest-running study ever, which has been done out of Harvard, shows that the number one predictor of somebody’s health is actually positive relationships.”

 

On Inflammation, Stress and Support

“So, probably the big culprit, and I talk a lot about this in the book, is inflammation…We know that inflammation has been linked with depression and anxiety and other things. And it’s interesting because some of the medicines that we use to treat those illnesses that we didn’t fully understand. We know from clinical trials that they work, but we didn’t know how they worked and it seems to be a common pathway among many of them that they’re anti-inflammatory. And what’s interesting about that is we might be looking at sort of like a underlying cause of all illness, which is, as a clinician, quite exciting. But then the other question is how, what can you do to try to reduce that? And a major pathway through that is our stress levels. And stress is something that happens to all of us. But a big piece of it that we can control that’s really exciting is how we deal with stress. And you know, that’s where there’s so much opportunity for training and coaching and thinking through how we navigate life’s challenges. And I think that’s what’s really exciting cause it validates so much of the work that people who are working in coaching and in wellness and in so many of the ways that we support one another, why it works too and why it helps us feel better too.”

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For More on Kelli Harding

The Rabbit Effect: Live Longer, Happier, and Healthier With the Groundbreaking Science of Kindness on Amazon

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Two Studies Mentioned in the podcast:

The Harvard Study (Grant Study)

Association Between Life Purpose and Mortality Among US Adults Older Than 50 Years

(University of Michigan)

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The Rabbit Effect is on our list of the Best Books on Retirement. We find that many of them are not explicitly about planning for retirement – and they can help you retire smarter.

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Related Podcast Episode:

What Can We Learn from Blue Zones? – Richard Eisenberg


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About Retirement Wisdom

We help people who are retiring, but not done yet, discover what’s next.

A long retirement is a terrible thing to waste. And a meaningful retirement doesn’t just happen by accident.

Retire smarter. Schedule a call today to discuss how we can help you make yours great.

What retirement advice for women would an expert offer?  Helen Dennis has helped thousands prepare for the non-financial side of retirement planning.  She recently celebrated the 18th anniversary of her popular weekly column Successful Aging. In this episode of our retirement podcast we asked Helen to share her views on a range of topics that can help you retire smarter:

  • Why the term retirement needs to be retired
  • The backstory of Project Renewment ®
  • The key themes she’s seeing in Project Renewment®  groups
  • What the different issues are that men face in this phase of life
  • What gets in the way of freedom in retirement
  • The pros and cons of a busy retirement
  • What Joy has to do with retirement
  • Her advice on how to navigate the transition from a full-time career to retirement

Wise Quotes

On Life Purpose and Retirement

“I think that’s one of the biggest challenges for retirement. Because when you’re working, you don’t have to think about purpose. You know exactly why you’re there. You know what you’re supposed to do, you know the expectations and you know the rewards. So, someone says, what is your purpose in life? As you’re working 50 hours a week, you say: my purpose in life is I get to work, do my job to support my family. So now we take all of that away and said, you know, it’s almost existential. You say, well, who am I now? Why am I on this planet? What is meaningful to me? And if you’ve never thought about that for the past 35 years or 40 years of your career. This is possibly a new thought and a new conversation. I think it is absolutely fundamental to have a meaningful purpose in retirement,  to have some sense of purpose – and it can be a journey.”

“Your purpose in the first five years may be a different purpose in the next five years. I think it’s a journey. I think talking about it in groups, in conversation groups – even with your book group – is very helpful. I think finding purpose can be hard as a solo activity. I think it’s one of the biggest challenges in retirement. You could be busy, you’d have a full calendar, but that sense of purpose may be missing – and a big piece of purpose often is giving back. That can be a very fulfilling aspect. It’s a challenge. It’s a process.”

 

On the Freedom of Retirement – and Life Changes

“Well, I think there is this feeling, particularly if you’ve had a high-pressure job, if you’re commuting in Los Angeles, and if you’ve had 12 changes in management that now you can breathe and say, Oh my God, I am finally free. I can sleep longer. I can breathe, I don’t have to hyperventilate. And so, there is this great feeling of freedom and then the unexpected occurs.  The unexpected like your adult children move home for whatever reason. We have grandparents raising grandchildren. The biggest one that seems to move into this space of freedom is caregiving. So, I think what we need to prepare for it is that freedom is not 100% of everything. We may have freedom and spirit, freedom of movement, freedom of thought. But we do have responsibilities. And the biggest one that seems to come in is caregiving.”

 

On Joy and Retirement

“We have a lot of environmental influences that can creep into our joy. And I love the definition of joy is the feeling of grinning inside…There are a lot of complexities of life and people go through their own struggles and yet you say, okay, this is a joyful time of your life.”

“Joy is not a word that is usually associated with aging and you don’t usually hear joy and retirement. So, it’s trying to shake that paradigm a little bit to say this has the potential to be the most joyful period of our lives. And when people are looking for joy, you’re saying, all right, how do I make myself joyful?”

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Bio

Helen Dennis is a nationally recognized leader on issues of aging, employment and retirement with academic, corporate and nonprofit experience. She has received awards for her university teaching at USC’s Davis School, Andrus Gerontology Center and for her contributions to the field of aging, the community and literary arts. She has edited two books and written more than 100 articles and has frequent speaking engagements. She is the weekly columnist on Successful Aging for the Southern California Newspaper Group and has assisted more than 15,000 employees in preparation for the non-financial aspects of retirement. In her volunteer life, she has served as president of five nonprofit organizations. Fully engaged in the field of aging, she was a delegate to a White House Conference on Aging and is co-author of the Los Angeles Times bestseller, “Project Renewment®: The First Retirement Model for Career Women.” Helen has extensive experience with the media including Prime Time, NPR, network news, the Wall Street Journal, Los Angeles Times, Sacramento Bee and Christian Science Monitor. She recently has been recognized by PBS Next Avenue as one of the 50 Influencers in Aging.

Project Renewment is available on Amazon

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Websites:

www.HelenMDennis.com

Project Renewment

Sucessful Aging column

 

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Interested in starting a Project Renewment®  group and have questions? Contact Helen Dennis at helendenn@aol.com

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A long retirement is a terrible thing to waste. And a meaningful retirement doesn’t just happen by accident.

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Can Resilience Be Learned?

In this episode of our retirement podcast we with talk with Jan Zacharjasz. Jan is a Certified Professional Coach specializing in midlife transitions, including making a midlife career change, focusing on the changing needs of Baby Boomers as they redefine aging today. Jan shares with us her insights and perspective on a range of topics:

  • Her story of what led her to become a coach
  • The key challenges she sees clients dealing with in mid-life and beyond
  • Why resilience building is vital – and whether it’s something you’re born with or can be learned
  • How she helps clients navigate transitions
  • Her coaching approach
  • The benefits of coaching for her clients

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Wise Quotes

“I think resilience is just one of the most important things that you can have in midlife. I really see resilience as an antidote for managing many of the mid and later life changes that we were just talking about. It’s really an essential tool to help you navigate through the different bumps in the road that come up – and to help you not only bounce back from setbacks or disappointments or worries. But resilience done the right way really can enable you to come out of it even stronger than ever as a result of the experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them.”

“I really see there’s just an incredibly widespread application for resilience. In midlife. And resilience is a key life skill. And, if you think about it, nobody really taught us how to be resilient in school. So that’s why I build resilience into my coaching and I actually teach it in workshops.”

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Bio

 

Jan Zacharjasz is a Certified Professional Coach specializing in midlife transitions, focusing on the changing needs of Baby Boomers as they redefine aging today.  The founder of Coaching for Resilience, Jan is passionate about helping people gain courage and resilience through significant work, health, and family changes so they can reframe their lives and thrive moving forward.  Along with individual coaching, Jan provides life purpose and energy leadership assessments and interactive workshops on resilience, retirement lifestyle planning, and how to manage change successfully.

Jan’s career spans the private and public sectors in healthcare.  Most recently, she directed an award-winning program designed to cultivate positive aging in those who are 55+.  This innovative program focused on health and wellness, social connectivity, and strategies for creating a fulfilling retirement.

Jan received her coaching certification from iPEC, the leading Coach Training program in the U.S.  She earned her M.S. in Human Organization Science from Villanova University and her B.S. in Individual and Family Studies from The Pennsylvania State University, where she graduated as valedictorian.

An active community leader, Jan is co-chair for the Philadelphia chapter of the Life Planning Network and serves on its National Board.  She developed the Sandwich Generation Series to provide life-changing support to Boomers in caregiving roles for their aging parents and children.

Jan has effectively responded to her family’s unexpected life changes and brings deep sensitivity, resourcefulness, and diligence to her coaching clients.  A proud member of the Sandwich Generation, Jan provides endless love and devotion to her husband, Mario, two daughters, and mother.  She loves traveling, exercising, and relaxing with family and friends at the beach.

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Related Retirement Wisdom Podcast episodes

We’re All Ageing. Are You Up for a. Bolder Approach? – Carl Honore

How Seniors Are Saving the World With Activism – Thelma Reese

Your Retirement Won’t Come with a Road Map – Carol Hymowitz

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About Retirement Wisdom

We help people who are retiring, but not done yet, discover what’s next.

A long retirement is a terrible thing to waste. And a meaningful retirement doesn’t just happen by accident.

Retire smarter. Schedule a call today to discuss how we can help you make yours great.

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Related Article

How to Build Resilience in Midlife

The New York Times